Go with yourself in your pace, baby girl

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There are times when we feel everything is going down on us. And everyone we care about is onto us for doing something in life like they are doing and sometimes so are you, on yourself. Nobody likes giving you the freedom to choose or for you to go with the pace your life has provided you with.

There is always someone asking if you have decided anything yet. Like – when are you going to get the job, when are you going to get married, when are you going to get kids, and the list goes on. We have all been in this kind of a situation and we all know very well that how much it sucks. And how much you just want to be invisible and shut the noise off. But the thing is, you’re not alone, and you yourself know that.

In these kinds of situations, people win if you start feeling withdrawn. And that is what they expect you to do, that is why they come around your neck in the first place – to feel superior to you. But you have to fight this. You have to accept that what they fee is right and also that your life path is right. There can always be two rights at one single moment. Go forward in life and your aims with a positive and nonjudgmental opinion. It is always better to accept both the truths – yours and theirs – and continue with your life without the feeling of hatred towards people who mean a lot to you.

When you feel like you’re losing your fight with yourself in dealing with the pressure people put on you – just take a break. Go out for a solo drive, put in your favorite music, go for a jog, go to the gym, go to the dance class, do whatever your heart feels good in. Just don’t put yourself down. It never works that way. We kee telling others that life is short but we sometimes forget it when it comes to us.

We forget that life is short and we’re wasting it living off the pressure people put on us. It is your life and you gotta do what you gotta do, right? So don’t let the world tell you what you have to do, if they do, don’t let it bother you so much that you shut down. Life will always be filled with such people. Learn to accept them and learn to accept yourself. You are amazing. Don’t give someone the power to dim your light, baby girl.

So go out there and shine your brightest, everyone has goals in their lives, and you will get there, sooner or later. Don’t let disappointments get down on you and tell you that you can’t do it. Because you know you can. Don’t let anyone tell you differently, not even yourself. You’ve got this, girl. Keep your chin up and your head held high and keep doing your thang cause you know the world ain’t the same without your sunshine. Good luck, girl, the world is waiting for you to reflect and shine.

Because no one does it

like you do it yourself

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Cheers, love.

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Society and You

I succeeded because I did what the society told me, said no one ever.

I bet more than half of us think about the society’s reaction before doing every damn thing! Be it wearing a dress you really love or choosing the career you actually want to, let’s accept, that almost all of us consider what views the people around us would have on our choices. We are always in a dilemma that if do this one particular thing, will the society be okay with it? We have to think a thousand times about their reaction to the things we want. Don’t you think that is way too much attention towards the general public and putting our dilemmas and their views before our wants?

Let’s dive deep into the very reason of this mindset. Do we feel we owe something to the society? Well, no! Do we feel we’re inferior and so we need to please the people around us? Maybe some of us do think this. But what I’ve noticed and learnt till date is that the real reason behind this what-would-people-say outlook is we just can’t tolerate criticism. We care way too much about how we would be seen by those strangers around us because we can’t hear a single negative thing about ourselves. But really, why is it so? Why do everyone and every single comment matter? Isn’t it enough that we like what we do? I think it is and it is high time that you realise that you are the most important person to yourself, and this world won’t be itself if you were something different from what you are meant to be and supposed to be.

You want to dye your hair blue, dye them blue if that’s what you want. You want to wear that short summer dress that makes you feel beautiful, just wear it and show it off! Hell! If you want to divorce your husband because you’re not happy with him even trying hard for years, it’s time you leave him in the blink of an eye and move on!(Or probably do something amazing after the end like Elizabeth Gilbert did!) The world has many other people who would give you real joy. Don’t just think what the society has to say about your actions. Make your life your own in the real sense and live it in a way you have always wanted to because well, you don’t get to live a life twice. Why think twice then? It’s ridiculous to not to do what you wish to do just because of some idiotic-good-for-nothing people who couldn’t care less about you!

The fact is if people don’t want to like you then they simply won’t like you even if you’re the prettiest soul in the room! So just stop giving a damn about society’s idea of beauty or “perfect”. About the flaws you have, just embrace them and learn to flaunt them. Kill people with the grace of your imperfections and perfections. Who would have the time to care about what any other person has to say when you’re busy being the beautiful soul that you are.

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Strong & Empowered Women


Today, I want to take this day to tell you about my blog, its name, and how and why it happened, and why I specifically chose women to be my muse for the blog.

I’ve always been a fan of scripts that motivate people, especially women. We live in a world where men don’t have to think twice before going after their dreams. But for women, some or most of them, it is not that easy. We have to think so many things before we take any step.

But that is not how it is supposed to be. We are aiming for the time when we don’t have to say that she’s the first women to do that, or a group of women did it for the first time. It shouldn’t be like that, a woman achieving something should be as normal as a man receiving something.

This blog is aimed at those girls who know they want big in life, and are needing some inspiration to go ahead for it, and for those who want to do big, and are ready to take control of it.

Every day in our life we pass so many people, you know who catches our eyes? The homeless, and the rich and successful. These are two extremes of any life. The normal average human never leaves quite a remark on our minds, because well — they’re mediocre.

Our life is supposed to be the extremes, we are supposed to stay and live extreme, that’s how our body clock works. We want the whole world or nothing at all. The people who are content with their present life have already given up. They’re rare, and you don’t wanna be them.

Live your life to the fullest, always aim for more. 

There comes a day in our life, when we lay in our bed, whether or not we’re breathing our last breath, but — we get flashbacks, of all the things we did in our lives, the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful. It all comes to us back in front of our eyes, and then we come back to reality, we look around and see what we have achieved in our life.

Do you think you’re going to be happy when something like that happens and you look around? Have you created the life you pictured for yourself? If not — then why not? What’s stopping you? Probably you are stopping yourself.

Many a time we are our own hinderance, we stop ourselves from taking that one step destined to take us to our dream life. Why? Because society, because children, because husband, because a 9-5 job, because parents. Honestly, the excuses are many, and they are never going to stop. Never.

Robert Frost once wrote in beautiful and popular words, “Two roads diverged in a wood; and I took the one less travelled by.”

I’ve created this blog for and a probably for myself, too, because the questions that come to my mind sometimes get answered when I get down and write.

Get going girl, there’s a world to take over.

Let’s be strong and empowered.

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Life in a cycle

Every day we go through the same cycle, the waking up to the alarm, the almost skipped breakfast, the running late to catch the taxi, the long work period, the coming home, having food, and then finally, sleeping, just to wake up to repeat the cycle.

The things go on like this forever, till we are old enough, sitting in a rocking-chair by the window and thinking, “Did I live my life right?”
We come across a few people in our lifetime who broke away from the same cycle of life, who went out the cycle to live their own lives, they decided their own rules and lived along them, and maybe at the start they had to hear mockery from the close ones, but we all know that now people look at them with admiration because they themselves spend a lot of time of the daily life thinking if they should break out of the routine, and if yes, then how?

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The Bhagavad Gita — that ancient Indian text — says that it’s better to live your own life imperfectly than to live an imitation of someone else’s life perfectly.
Life is short — I do not need to tell you this, you already know — and we need to build it the way we want, so that when our time comes, we can look at the flash of our lives before us and say, “Yes, I lived it right.”
There are a lot of things we do so that we don’t have to hear things from people so that we are in tune with what other people do, no matter how miserable doing those things makes us feel. It can be as simple as eating that bad-tasting cereal in the morning, to as big as that job which people say is good, but you know how drained and bad it makes you feel. It can be that marriage that you are okay with but that makes you feel dead in life, to that dress you wore to the party that your dresser made you wear but that didn’t go with your taste. It can be as small as a grain of sand, to as big as the mountain. But we need to work for it, for the life that we want, for the feeling of ecstasy that we’ve spent our whole lives looking for, for the peace we will get when our time comes.
Yes, living according to the society feels like the safe choice, but does it give you the satisfaction that life is supposed to give you? The one you read about online and in books? And what are you doing to make it that way? Are you close to reaching that point, or you still have a long way to go?
I hope you’ll take your time after reading this to write down what you want out of your life, and is your present situation going to get you there? Write down what all you need to make it through and get going on it, no matter how slow, but go get your life straight, darling.

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Loving yourself

How many of us love ourselves? How many of us really do adore every single inch of our body and every little element of our soul? Well, each one of us should.

The only way you can be truly, madly, and deeply happy is when you love yourself with every ounce of your heart. Being tetchy about something as little as the texture of your hair to something as huge as the story of your life won’t help. I guess everything in your life has a reason behind it, be it why you lost your much-loved sweater or why you couldn’t reach on time on your first date. For the latter I would say, “Maybe you’ve a better date ahead, just a matter of time!”

What really stuns me is the fact that we expect everyone around us, well, if not the whole world, to love us for who we are when we don’t feel the same for our own self. Isn’t it hilarious? You invest in something you expect an outcome from, you fight for the things you believe in, you promote stuff you are interested in and likewise you would expect people to be fond of you if you like yourself in the first place. Now that you get the basic picture let us talk about being happy.

Easier said than done, right? But contrary to what some of us think, it is not rocket science. Remember when you were a little girl and life was blissful? You sure do. The secret behind life being so trouble-free and uncomplicated was that you knew how to be happy with the little things you had. Daddy gifted you a new toy on Christmas, your class in-charge chose you to be the class monitor or one fine day you didn’t get any homework; such little things made you so happy that you used to jump with jubilation. Where did this feeling get lost? Maybe while growing up our expectations grew up too.

Try to find happiness in the little things that happen each day. We usually don’t notice or give luck enough credit for such little packets of joy. What if you got up one day and found some of your hair turned grey due to reasons unknown? Sounds funny, I know! But really, what if one day you don’t even get up to see the next day of your life? Why do we consider the awful things that did happen to us rather than considering the worse things which could have happened? The moment you feel terrible about something just look around. You might find someone in an even more dreadful situation. Had you been in their shoes, you would have been even more miserable that day. Yeah, you might also end up finding someone in the best of their disposition. Don’t you dare feel dejected! It simply wasn’t your day, but luckily days change!

The bottom line here is, you have to follow the golden rule which says, “Love yourself. Try to love the people and things around, too.”  Life becomes effortless.

I’m my favorite person, are you?  Try this and see how the magic works.

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Good Relations

You know what’s the secret to success? Good relationships.

Always and always maintain your relationships with people. Having good relations with people can do a lot good to you and your career than you can imagine. We all know how good networking is, but what after you’ve met the people in your life? Maintain the contact.

The people in your life can always make and break you. Have good quality relations and stick to them. That is the best gift you can give yourself.

You know why relationships are important? Because they keep you on the ground when you are in need of support.

Relationships are going to be your strong point. Because we all know, whenever we go for a job interview, we have a much stronger point there if we have networks in that industry already.

Remember how they say that you should always stay in touch with your clients? Sending them emails and stuff? The same is true for the people you network with, client or not, because you are going to get something good out of that, you are going to remain in their eye and they’ll have you there when they’re in need of something that you have mastered over.

So, beauties, always maintain good relations with people you come in contact with and spread off your glitter.

Believe you can, and you’re halfway there

You know what sets you free? Believing in yourself.

Nothing in the world can make you feel better and motivated than you yourself. You are your lone source of happiness.
We’ve all heard about manifesting. Whether it works or not, but we sure do know that the more we focus on our happiness and the good in our life, the happier we feel. And the more we think about sadness, the more empty we feel.

So, if that can work for happiness, it sure can work for motivation.

Wake up every day and know that you are going to kill it today. Wake up every day – happy and motivated. Take your time to think about the good in your life and all you want to achieve in that day. Trust yourself. If you won’t trust yourself, then how will others trust you?
You make yourself for the world and your future. If you believe in your future, it will surely happen.

Wake up every day and take five minutes, where you close your eyes and think about the good in your life. Think about all the blessings you have and what all you want to achieve on that particular day.

Thinking about the good in your life can send ‘happy’ signals to your brain, which in turn make you feel good throughout the day. We are our thoughts. Manifest your desires, and you’ll meet them halfway to you.

Practice this for a few days and you’ll see the change in your mood.

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Have a little faith, beautiful. The world is waiting for you.